Four To Get Married

Transcripts for Dr. Wiersbe's sermons are forthcoming. Below is an outline of his message.

God invented marriage, and He wants it to blessand benefitus.

For a marriage to be happy, rewarding, and creative, four people must be involved: the Lord Jesus, a loving husband, a submissive wife, and the empowering Holy Spirit.

Marriage is meant to be enjoyed, not endured.

Four people who must be involved for the Christian marriage to work:

-      The LordJesus Christ

• If you start your marriage without the Lord Jesus, you don’t have much chance for success.
• Christ is the Savior, the Lord, and an example to the church.
• You shouldn’t marry somebody unless you are willing to submit to what the Bible has to say.
• The main problem in the Christian home is the lordship of Jesus Christ.
• A couple should look to how Christ loves the churchas an example for marriage.
• How do you invite the lordship of Christ into your marriage if you don’t pray together?
• It takes more than two people being saved to have a happy marriage.

-      A loving husband

• Loving your wife is one of the greatest commands.
• Marriage is always a covenant commitment.
• Four characteristics of a spiritual husband’s love for his wife:
  • It is a separated love. 
    • A husband is called to leave his parents (physically, financially, and emotionally) and cling to his wife.
    • It is a sacrificial love.
      • Love includes an attitude of service and giving—putting her first.
    • It is a sanctifying love.
      • A husband’s love should make his wife a better Christian.
    • It is a satisfying love.
      • The love of a man for his wife should nourish her emotionally and spiritually.
      • When a couple is nourished with that kind of love, they don’t want anyone else. 
• Don’t marry someone until you can give that kind of love.

-      A submissive wife

• Submission does not mean inferiority; it means order.
• Misunderstanding the command to submit comes from rebellion against God’s order.
• Wives are to submit to their husbands because of the lordship of Jesus and the headship of the husband.
  • When a husband loves as he is commanded, a wife should have no problem submitting. 
  • Submission is an act of obedience and love to the Lord.
  • The headship of the man is not a dictatorship.
• Don’t marry someone until you are ready to submit as the church submits to Christ.
• Submission is intended to bring fulfillment and growth.